The Oleek, My Dad, and Being a Dad

I unsnapped the canopy on the side of the bridge, and stuck my face outside, into the pouring rain. I’m sure I laughed. The rain was coming down so hard that I wanted to feel it on my face. It was something that any normal 14 year-old-boy would do. The yellow rain coat complete with a hood, kept the rest of me dry.

The boat broke through the waves as I held on, and I was fascinated by the bow splitting the water before us. I watched again, and again, hoping that each time we crashed through the oncoming swell, it would send out a watery tumult. We were heading directly through a storm in Galveston Bay, on our way to Clear Lake, Texas.

Like any storm, there was an element of danger, and I was afraid when my father first told me we would be encountering bad weather. Because of my Dad’s love of boats, I had grown up around the water enough to know that any storm on the water could be dangerous.

When I was younger, I heard of one such storm in which one lightning bolt hit six boats all at once, catching them all on fire, sending the occupants overboard for safety. My brothers and I were fascinated by the story, and more so when the burned-out hulls were lined up in a small lot next to the marina. The point was made: all storms on the water are dangerous enough to bring disaster. Boaters needed to be cautious and on their guard.

Going through the storm with my Dad was exciting and there was a trace of fear as we approached it. But, I was with my Dad. I always felt safe when he was in control, whether he was at the helm of the Oleek, driving his car, or later in life, flying his plane. My Dad is a stickler for the pre-flight check off list, even when he was the captain of the small boats he owned.

Once the family arrived at the slip where the Oleek resided, we were responsible for unloading the car and putting things away. Dad’s self-appointed responsibility was making sure the boat was sea worthy. That always entailed him climbing below the cabin deck where the two Chrysler 440 big-block engines rested. He checked the oil, and a dozen other things, making sure that both were ready to go to sea.

It didn’t matter where the destination was, Dad worked his way meticulously through the check list. We could be taking a quick trip out into Clear Lake, or a longer journey through the Kemah Channel, out into Galveston Bay, and beyond Bolivar Point into the Gulf of Mexico, but not without him going through the list.

As far as I know, we never complained. We just knew that Dad was doing what Dad had to do to make us safe.

So as well headed into that storm on Galveston Bay, I knew that we would be fine. I trusted Dad to get us through. Therefore, wave after wave, became more of an adventure. He even let me take helm as the rain battered against the cabin and the canvas canopy keeping us dry. It was magical, turning the wheel, feeling the boat going up and down as it crashed through the waves. It was much better than anything at Astroworld, especially because it was just me and Dad.

That fact, simple as it seemed, is the reason it is one of my favorite memories of my father. The reason is that I had four brothers, who were also around, vying for his time. And he had a new wife, my step-mother Liz, who captivated his time. To be able to spend time just with him, even though I lived with him, was monumental. It was rare.

The reason Liz wasn’t on our trip across the bay was because she had to drive the car from the Galveston Yacht Basin, where we picked up the Oleek, and would meet us at the basin in Clear Lake. You can see how rare the moment was. It didn’t happen a lot, and it’s one of the reason I do cherish the afternoon.

But there is more to it than that. I now have two boys who need my time just as much as I needed my father’s time. They even need that solo time with me. I know it doesn’t have to be much. A simple game of one-on-one basketball. A walk around the lake. Listening to the silly story of the day. Who knows what they will remember from their teen years, the way I remember my day with Dad and the Oleek. The goal is, to give them plenty of opportunities for that to happen.

“Dad, can I put my face outside in the rain?”

Silly question. Silly boy. Chuckling Dad.

“Sure son, if you want to.”

My face was drenched and the moment was the best: the rain, the boat, the storm, and especially Dad.

(Note: of the pictures, the Oleek is the one above.. The first two pictures below are of the Velda R, named after my mother. The boat with the flying bridge is the Roebuck. The only other boat like this that my Dad owned was the Happy Venture, which sank.)






 

Hearing the Beach

Standing underneath these palm trees, I could almost hear, and smell the beach. These trees seemed so out of place, here in north Texas, but were able, for the moment, to remind me of growing up going to the beach in Galveston as a boy. There are plenty of palm trees in Galveston. There is also the smell of the sea, the sound of the surf, the cry of the gull. It would be nice to walk along the sea wall, even with social distancing, and stop in some local restaurant for some fried shrimp and stuff crabs. There are only 316 miles to go, before I could do that. Given the situation around us, I’m quite certain it’s not going to happen.





 

Backyard Bliss

I do miss the backyard from our home in Terrell. It was far from perfect, but it was ours and we loved spending time there, especially with friends and family, next to a fire in the pit.

In fact, looking back on it now, it was the imperfection of the yard itself that made it so lovable. The grass, wasn’t really grass. The fence, was so old that it had a green hue to it, and was painted an ugly tan on the outside of it, to hide its true age. Every time I dug or planted anything anywhere, I came across broken glass. The squirrels were vicious with my tomatoes. I eventually discovered a poorly made sidewalk from the deck back to the dog house, that I had to break up. Even in my compost pile, I was challenged by the number of pecans that sprouted up. And no, the pecans were never big enough to eat.

Yet, with all those imperfections, it was our yard and I realize how much I miss it. Living in an apartment frees me up from having to cut grass (weeds), but I enjoyed that. It was my patch of dirt to work and tend.