Roundup That Matters

Why Courtship is Fundamentally Flawed — Another piece on the flaws of the courtship model of finding a spouse. The author founded a courtship website years ago and had the following to say about it all:

I founded Its purpose: to instigate a national conversation about how to make courtship more practical. Visits and comments poured in from all over the country about how to make courtship work and why it did not work.

Each year I waited for courtship to start working and for my homeschool friends to start getting married. It never happened. Most of them are still single. Some have grown bitter and jaded. Then couples who did get married through courtship started getting divorced. I’m talking the kind of couples who first kissed at their wedding were filing for divorce.

This was not the deal!

The deal was that if we put up with the rules and awkwardness of courtship now we could avoid the pain of divorce later.  The whole point of courtship was to have a happy marriage, not a high divorce rate.

I think that every area of finding a spouse is flawed because it is done by flawed people. Finding a spouse is hard, keeping them is even harder. But that is my opinion. I’m really skeptical of a lot of things when it comes to relationships and marriage.

Suicide is a Choice — I like Matt Walsh’s response to those who criticized him for daring to speak some truth concerning Robin Williams. Walsh’s first piece, Robin Williams didn’t die from a disease, he died from his choice, he simply states the reality of what happens and does so with compassion. But the truth is too much for some, and he was berated by the internet mobsters for even discussing it. I think both articles are worth reading and giving some serious thoughts to.

I wanted to post on Williams death earlier in the week, but never could find the right words. I have to admit that his death really saddens me even though I’ve been sick of his acting for some time. Yes, he was a genius. But a lot of it, he repeated over and over and over again. I’m not trying to take away from what he accomplished as a comedian and an actor. Just saying that I grew tired of it, yet, I’m still sad about how he ended his life.

That Still Small Voice — You know I love good sermons, and the one here by Phil Johnson is worth listening to. One of the things that it dispels is the notion that we are to be still before God and listen to that “still small voice” inside our head for His direction. The passage in question, 1 Kings 19:9-18, does not teach that at all. What it does is show us that God is not in the signs and wonders that so many claim that He is in, but chose to speak to Elijah using an audible voice. The voice Elijah heard was not in his head, but what the LORD spoke to Him. This story is narrative and one of the things we do not do when it comes to narrative in the Bible is declare it normative. God doesn’t speak to us this way. He uses the Bible He has already given to us. The sermon says a lot more than that, but I felt I needed to stress that point.

Something to Think About — This one is something I wrote on my FB page earlier this week:

The problem with the idea that we can use disasters, both manmade and natural, as a means of grace in leading the lost to Christ is that then you have to have more disasters to maintain those coming. No! This is wrong thinking. We are to preach the gospel. Preaching is the means that God has chosen for us to use in spreading the gospel among the lost AND maintaining those who have come to know Christ. This is one of the ordinary means of grace that God uses in bringing people to Himself. Not disasters, movies, plays, or any other such nonsense will lead the lost to the saving knowledge of Christ. It is preaching WITH words! Just as Jesus did, Paul did, Peter did and every other faithful witness to Christ.

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  1. Great points. The courtship ideas have some merit but aren’t some foolproof checklist. The merger of two sinners (who then tend to create more sinners) will be necessarily complex.

    I’ve read lots of articles on Williams but haven’t seen the pro-assisted suicide folks defending his actions. Seems like a great time to bring that up and then expose their evil thinking.

    And yes, I like to remind people that the “still small voice” was audible — unlike the made-up “still small voices” people reflexively attribute to God.


  2. Hey Timothy,
    I have been blessed with a couple of good pastors in my Christian life (you are one of them!). The other one preached one of the best sermons I’ve ever heard, and it happened to be on that Elijah text. After I read your post I thought of it, and thought I would share it with you. It’s fairly long, and it’s worth every second. It’s reduced me to tears and brought me joy every time I’ve listed to it:


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